I want to thank the wonderful and generous Andrew Grey for welcoming me onto his blog. I’ve only made a few messes (if one considers encouraging his characters to do sexy things with each other…) What? Oh, right!
I’m a love slave… There I’m out.
I’ve actually been open and I’ve made this proclamation a number of times in the past. I’ve gotten private messages on Facebook and in person that vary from: “Really? You don’t seem like the type.” Someone noticed, “But you and your husband have such an equal relationship.” I’ve gotten some, “Oh… I write it I don’t do it.” A number of people thought I was joking and still others have scrambled not to respond.
In the past, I’ve had others tell me I’m too broken and have too many limits to be called a sub. This is one of the reasons I consider myself a loveslave emphasis on love. I’ve seen, heard and gotten much invalidation in the past.
Of course, I’ve also been high-fived, people volunteer “me too” (which always makes me feel honored that they trust me with this piece of themselves), I’ve gotten “I write BDSM and I do practice it too.”
I guess I don’t live up to the expectations they have in their mind about what a submissive would look like or what they would act like.
Newsflash: You can’t always tell kinkiness by looking at someone. We don’t all look the same, act the same or express our submission the same way.
Last year at a convention, I attended a panel on BDSM. I was surprised some of people in the “lifestyle” seemed confused when other people explained how they enjoyed things in a different manner. Sometimes we can get so deep we may forget others express their submission or dominance in ways distinct to them. Sure basics of BDSM translate, but there’s always unique ways of expression based the individuals involved, the relationship between the partners, the geographical location, the club/gathering rules and what the people in the “lifestyle” what to get out of the scene.
I used to belong to a dungeon, I’ve gone to munches (which are non-smexy gathering to meet other like minded BDSM folks in your area), and to gone to sex clubs. So what? Does that make me part of the “lifestyle”? No, it was simply part of how I expressed that side of myself at that moment in time.
I put quotes around “lifestyle” because for some folks (for me) it doesn’t seem like a choice. It’s simply of part of who I am. BDSM need/fulfillment is one of the filters I see the world through.
It didn’t surprise any of my critique partners when I announced I was writing a BDSM themed book. On July 15th Lock and Key will be out in the world. I can’t wait to share Zack Davis’s experience with you. Until then I direct your attention to Zombies Suck. Alex is a virgin Dominant whose afraid to orgasm. Cutter needs the breathing space BDSM can provide. Ulrich and Storm love their best friends… really love them and are falling for each other.
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Forget undead corpses searching for brains. These zombies crave a different kind of head that keeps them young forever. Club Zombie offers safe haven, providing sexy ways to extract what they need from patrons, and the opportunity to find their destined mate.
Alex Waterman is ashamed of his “vile, unnatural desires” and lives a in a desolate world of loneliness and suffering until discovering… it’s not his life. Suddenly he’s swept away to a place where his desires aren’t evil, they’re a mark of the dominant he’s born to be, and appreciative stares and aggressive flirting replace fear and self-loathing. But one night stands aren’t on the menu: Alex seeks “the one” to complete the missing piece of his soul.
Boy-next-door Ulrich calls to Alex, as does the gorgeous but self-destructive Cutter, and an element of irresistible danger clings to bad boy Storm. How can Alex decide between three tempting possibilities?
Maybe he should keep them all….
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